First Impressions!!
Its human nature to analyse things and come to a logical and genuine conclusion. And this is how perceptions are made about a person or a thing. Many a times these perception are quite far from reality. The reasons for these discrepancies can be many. But in my opinion the main reason is we try to form an impression about the person or thing in the first impression itself. No wonder its rightly said, “ First Impression is the last Impression.”
But I would like to share my views on this which are quite different or rather contradictory. I personally believe that one should take time in analyzing things and after substantial number of incidents or evidences only, should form an impression about the person or thing. The normal tendency which we have is we are very quick in passing judgements. We might think that even if we are not right in being judgemental, we don’t lose anything or we are not harmed by it. So why to ponder much on this.
But we do lose by being judgemental. Sometimes the loss can be very profound which we might not even realize. We might lose a prospective friendship or acquaintance if we wrongly judge somebody to be having a negative character. That friendship might have lasted a lifetime but we have destroyed it in seconds. It was not because of that person’s fault but ours. We have deprived ourselves and that person too a lifelong true friendship. I don’t need to tell how important friends are in our lives.
Now, talking about the other side of the coin. Many a times we get attracted to a person by his looks and his apparent demeanor. The person might not be as good as he/she seems. But because of our judgemental nature we tend to choose this person as a friend, lover or even life partner without analyzing him/her properly. And we all know the end result of such quick judgements. Broken hearts, mistrusts, secrets being made public, divorces and MMS clips are results of such quick judgements.
So its in our interest to think and analyse well before passing the final verdict especially when the relation or interaction is going to last for a longer period of time. Also, we should give the “benefit of doubt” to someone who does not comes across as a good person in the first impression. By doing this we will ensure that we have an optimistic approach to life and people around us!!
